No amount of reading will change your life, love will.

 I've read a lot of books. I've listened to a lot of podcasts. I've watched a lot of ted talks. I've even gone to a lot of therapists/healers. This is all great, helpful, informative but it doesn't change your life. YOU change your life.

It's quite the tough realization. You are responsible for your life. Nobody else. There is no one to blame, no one to point the finger at. Yes, what happened/happens to you in life is not your 'fault' per-say but how you show up is your responsibility. We all do it. We all look for things or people to blame. It's okay. Forgive yourself. Taking charge of your life is hard. It takes guts. It takes self-love. 

So much love is involved in taking the reigns of your life. You have to love yourself enough to decide to do so. You have to know your worth, know your potential. We all have such potential but so many of us don't see it within ourselves. I'm at a point where I can see it and it kills me that I'm not living it. Part of the process is failing. For example tonight I didn't make it to a dance class I was hoping to do. There is a big BUT coming... It's okay. It is part of it. If I berate myself for not making the class, I'll fall down a hole of self- hate and sabotage which we really do not need or want.

So much of changing your life comes from love. Loving yourself enough to want to change. It's scary. Really fucking scary. Life is scary!! Choosing to live the way YOU want can be scary too so for god's sake go easy on yourself. You can get to all the places you want to go by being kind to yourself. I truly believe that. I do not think there is any room for hateful words. You may disagree, that's okay but one thing I have learnt from all the 'work' is that love is the only way. Showing up with love, love for yourself, love for others, love for the planet, love for everything you come in contact with.

I also think it's easier to make a commitment knowing that you will be loved on the days you don't quite make it, or the days you want to cry your eyes out. Love will set you free. Love will lead you to wonderful places. Love will hold you when you cry. Love will push you that little further. Love will change your perspective. Love will open doorways. Love will change your life. I will leave you with some words from Frued.

'how bold one gets when one is sure of being loved.'

Be bold. Boldly love yourself, warts and all.