Learning not to react

    Learning not to react is a skill, a skill not many people have mastered. Having the ability to not react is a life changer. You might have heard of people saying 'become the observer' within any given situation. When you take a step back and really assess what is happening, you give yourself this chance to decide how you are going to react. Its a small window of time in which it can happen.

 Your behavior impacts your mood. You can chose how you react to anything and everything.  Anytime you feel your emotion rising, acknowledge it and decide what your going to do with it. Protect your energy, are you really going to give your energy to a tiny inconvenience to your day? Overtime, you start to realize how there is power in not reacting. You will notice a change, a calmness that comes.
 
  We tend to have an emotional reaction to almost everything that is said to us, especially if it is directed at us personally. Something that goes hand in hand with not reacting is worrying about what others think of you. We feel we have to defend ourselves or justify ourselves to others which we really don't. What others think of you does not really matter. Be sure of yourself, don't allow other people to sway you. It is hard but possible. We get caught up in wondering what other people think of us sometimes or we start to believe something someone has said to us, which then impacts our view of ourselves. As children this is how we learnt about ourselves. What others told us about ourselves was what we believed. We wanted to impress our elders, children seek praise. That's okay, that's normal but as adults we have to learn how to raise ourselves, how to believe in ourselves without looking to others to approve of us.
 
There is such freedom in this. Learning to build our own self-esteem can be challenging especially when we are surrounded by people who bring us down.

The thing is, the way you see yourself is the only thing that truly matters. Your belief in yourself is paramount. You cannot let other people decide or influence you about you. No one knows you like you know yourself.

Stand tall. Remember your worth. Remember that you know what your doing. Keep your focus on your own basket. By doing so, the worries of what everyone else thinks will disintegrate. You are strong, you are capable, you are worthy.